WOW WOW WOW WOW WOW WOW............
So many things running through my mind over the last few days. The state of the country. The state of the world. What will I wear? What about my hair? What am I doing to help those around me? Am I making good and sound decisions for myself and others? Am I being a good person? Why is my coffee not hot? Who is right and who is wrong and who really knows? When is the next game? Is the laundry done? How can I make it to the 5 events I need to attend today (in different places)?
Just sayin'.............I warned you - lots of stuff floating around in that space above my neck and between my ears. And then this showed up, made me stop and think. About what I can do and here's what I came up with for the moment.
1) Say Thank You - While there are days it seems to be a lost art form, simply saying Thank You, means a great deal to the person whom you are saying it to and it's easy. Appreciate what someone does for you - just say thank you or take it a step further and send a Thank You note. I know, crazy concept, but so amazing for both parties.
2) Apologize when I'm wrong - Now, this one, can be a bit more tricky to do, but it's really not that hard. The thing that is important, however, is to truly apologize - not just say I'm sorry because we think it's the "right" thing to do.
3) Show up on time - Admittedly, this has been a thing I've had to work on (and continue to do so) my whole life. The thing is - one persons time is really not any more valuable than another's so just be respectful.
***I have to share a little side note here. I have a dear friend who is very punctual. On time to her means 15 minutes before said designated time and on time to me means sliding in on the last tick of the said designated time. I know it was frustrating for her when we would get together because in her mind, I was always late. In mine, she was always way early so......we've compromised and it's a thing we both worked on. We always enjoy our time together so she doesn't come quite as early and there have been a few times when I've actually arrived first! Win for both of us!
4) Be nice to strangers - "You never know the battles someone else is fighting, so be kind". That's literally one of the truest statements ever. We don't know what's happening to someone else or what has gone on in their day and it's nice to just be nice. What an amazing place this world might be??? A stranger is just a friend we haven't met.
5) Listen without interrupting - WHAT?!?!?! That's a crazy concept. I believe we've gotten to a point in this world where we really are not hearing what the other person is saying because the whole time they're speaking we're formulating a response and often times can't wait to jump in because our point is so incredibly right or important. Listen without interrupting - try it, you'll like it and perhaps we'll all learn something along the way.
6) Admit when I'm wrong - Are you kidding me? I was the most right "I know" person in the world for a huge part of my life. Well, let me just say, while it's humbling, it's also positive to simply say, I was wrong and I apologize and Thank you for still loving me.
7) Follow my dreams - I can follow my dreams, but I must allow myself to have the dreams and then set up some action steps in order to make them become reality. I think sometimes (at least for me) we get so caught up in the day to day that we forget to allow ourselves time to dream and believe and achieve. My dad has always told me that he is the dreamer and my mom is the doer. Somehow to make the dreams come true - I'm working on a combination of the two. And do not forget, my friends, one is never to old to dream, believe and achieve!
8) Be a mentor - Do all the things on this list and you've become one and didn't eve realize it. Mentoring doesn't need to be for a specific thing or a specific person or group, but just every day living. Lead by example - be the person you want others to be.
9) Learn and use people's names - Admittedly, I've had to work (and continue to do so) on this. There are all sorts of tricks and books and ideas on how to learn and use people's names, but the key thing - to me - is to simply do it. It's that thing of making another feel important and incredibly, we are all important.
10) Hold doors open - Yes. I am saying it. Hold the door open for someone else and allow someone else to hold the door open for you. It's polite. It has nothing to do with chivalry, political correctness, feminism, chauvinism, whatever march is currently going on, it's simply a nice thing to do.
So - I almost got up on the soap box, but stopped myself. That will be for another day.
Much love and happiness friends. Do something nice for yourselves and those around you. Your future self will thank you for it.
When I set up my website and blog under the author section it reads "Write something about yourself. No need to be fancy, just an overview." Whew - cuz that's all I've got for the moment. I'm a pretty simple person who lives life lovingly. I care deeply and am passionate about many things. I have always had a spirit of (I'm going to call it) entrepreneurship so have been self-employed about as much as I've been employed by others. This is a place where I share thoughts, ideas and happenings. I'm finding that sharing my story (life) helps me as much or more than it helps others and I find that empowering. Keep doin' what you love and lovin' what you do! XO-KM